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20. Logan Ury: How To Not Die Alone (The Science of Finding Love)

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My guest today is Logan Ury, the author of How To Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love. Logan studied psychology at Harvard, ran Google’s behavioral science team, and now works at the dating app Hinge and as a dating coach.

In our conversation, Logan shares advice on what really matters in a long-term partner and what doesn’t, the pros and cons of online dating, why you shouldn’t focus on the initial spark or chemistry on a date, the difference between falling in love and being in love, and so much more.

TIMESTAMPS:

  • [00:44] - Why modern dating is so hard
  • [03:55] - The 3 dating tendencies (or what’s holding you back in dating) 
  • [08:10] - Attachment styles and how it affects your dating life
  • [12:00] - Myths around the spark and love at first sight
  • [16:37] - The traits that actually matter in a long-term partner
  • [20:50] - Vetting for a life partner
  • [25:36] - Why you should go on more second dates
  • [28:47] - How to make dates more fun and less like job interviews
  • [33:00] - Tips for staying in love 
  • [35:40] - How to know when you found the person you want to marry
  • [38:50] - A book that had a huge impact on Logan’s life


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